Miscarriage

I haven't written in a while as I wanted to keep my pregnancy a sort of secret until the 2nd trimester. Last Thursday, however, I started to bleed. I was in my 12 week exactly that day. After a crazed rush to the ER with Paul I was told I had to come back to the Maternity Unit the next day. It was a horrendous nearly 24 hour wait. In the meantime, I did try to come to terms that I was having a miscarriage.

On Friday I had the ultrasound. The baby stopped forming at around 6-7 weeks. I have to be honest with you, I had a gut feeling. I just didnt "feel right" during this pregnancy.

I don't even know what to say anymore. I am going to try and diet, exercise, eat well and try again. I so desperately wanted a baby in my arms by Christmas this year, as Paul and I had hoped and dreamed. I guess God has other plans for us. I am not sure how much more I can handle but I am proving to be stronger than I ever thought I could be.

Paul is a rock too! He is hard on me but he wants me to succeed and overcome this depression. We want to live our lives and respect Olivia's memory as well as the baby we lost but we want to carry on and be happy. I hope that will happen for us. We didnt have a very happy first year of marriage.

That's that for now....

Monday, Monday...

So another week begins. I will be seeing Thomas for 10 days. I am SUPER HAPPY about that. I miss him so much. I need to start figuring out what I am going to do with all the time on my hands. I should look into taking some classes. I am trying also to watch more carefully what I eat as I would like to lose at least 30 lbs before I get pregnant. So ttfn. Just wanted to check in.

Happy Birthday to Me!

Well today I am 42. I hope this is a happy year. I hope that I can find peace within myself. I just want to get healthy and focus on my marriage, my son, losing weight and hoping enhancing my life in some healthy ways that I have been toying with. I dont want to put too much on my plate. Well ttfn!

I got my friend today...

I am pretty sad. I got my period today. I was hoping that I would have an birthday present in the next few days finding out I was indeed pregnant. Well, next time. I need to stop obsessing on getting pregnant. I think I was convincing myself I was pregnant and that is not good. I dont want to be like those hysterical women that all then think about is having a baby and they lose interest in everything else. I know it will happen this year. I just need to concetrate on improving my health, mental and physical, losing weight and such this year. I just wish Thomas lived with me so I could be his Mom full time. I feel so alone and sad without my children. I feel cursed.

Well, that isnt positive thinking. Moving along. I have to just feel sorry for myself now and wake up tomorrow and think good thoughts. Life is too short. I cant believe half my life is over. I will be 42 tomorrow. My God a lot of things happenend in my life!

Negative Pregnancy Test Today

I am very depressed as I write this. I was due to have my period today and didn't. I have been very excited at the fact I could be pregnant again. I had all the signs of pregnancy, but alas the pregnancy proved I was not pregnant. I have had negative pregnancy tests in the past and was indeed pregnant. Now I am really worried about myself. Am I convincing myself that I am pregnant because I want it so badly? I know this is the wrong thing to do. I know the more I want to have a baby, the possibility is that it wont happen. I have to be stress free. But it is so hard.

I was traveling during my peak ovulation time last month and without realizing, we booked a trip for me back to NY during my peak ovulation time this month. Which means I won't be able to arrange my trip around my ovulation until February. I am just very anxious as I will be 42 on Saturday. The clock is really ticking now BIG TIME!

I have always gotten pregnant so quickly I took it for granted. Now that I want this other baby so badly, it probably wont happen unless I relax. I know I need to lose a lot of weight optimally to have a problem free pregnancy. I suppose I should work on this and look for some other things to keep my occupied so that I am not so fixed on getting pregnant.

At any rate, I do hope that we will get good news in the next few months. I need to work on healing myself from Olivia's death, work on my marriage and help Paul with his grief.

I miss my son Thomas. I am looking forward to seeing him this month. I have to think positive. It is so hard. God give me the strength to heal and have a good life with my husband!